When to Move On: How to Handle a Public Breakup

So! If you're like me, you follow the blogs and it doesn't take a rocket scientist to see the same common themes when it comes to couples in the media... BREAK-UPS! 

It seems like everyone handles it differently. For instance, some use the time to 'glow-up', while others use the time to initiate more attention by means of talking (or typing) reckless or making very pointed posts online full of shade. Then you have the ones that just won't let it go... They're trolling their ex's current bae or simply trolling their ex... Which brings me to this, at some point, you just have to move on!

Now if you've followed my career any, you know that I know a thing or two about public breakups. Let me be the first to tell you, it is not fun. In fact, sometimes it can take you to a dark place. Imagine everyone knowing scattered details about your relationship and making comments about it without knowing the full story or what really went on. A lot of times, blogs base their facts on speculations (which means they aren't even facts!)... But the same thing can happen to you if you aren't someone that's going to be posted on a popular blog site. It can happen to the girl or guy next door... But that brings me back to this... When do you just move on? How do you handle a public breakup? Whether you want to believe it or not, with social media, were all having public breakups. So here are a few tips I have... 


1. Don't post every little thing on social media until things are super official in your relationship

I think we often times make the mistake of OVERSHARING. What I mean by this is sharing intimate moments of our lives that we should keep to ourselves. You don't have to share every single thing on social media and everyone doesn't have to know who you're dating... Especially when it's really early on in the relationship. I've made this mistake before and it can make recovering from a breakup tough!


2. Avoid sappy and emotional post

I know, I know. It's hard and you just want to express yourself. But if you know what I know, you won't do it. Especially when people are speculating already. The blogs AND YOUR FRIENDS (and followers) live by the old saying, 'where there is smoke, there's fire'. If you even hint that you're going through a breakup, people will speculate. Save the subliminal's!


3. Use the time to glow up

You know I can't mention this without mentioning Khloe Kardashian. Remember when Khloe was experiencing turmoil in her marriage and I'm assuming decided that it was over... She GLOWED UP! I think Khloe is the #1 example of how you should handle a breakup... Glow up and move on! Use the time to workout and do things that make you feel good about yourself. When you look good, you feel good.


4. Work

If you're working, you're busy. You don't have much time to post or dwell on the past or what could have been. Your focus is on something completely different and what you focus on, is what others will focus on. Make sure you're projecting an image where people celebrate you, not pity you or have new things to use against you. So get your money up after a breakup!


5. Don't engage in negativity

You've seen it. Where the exes are going back and forth on snapchat or twitter. Don't even engage in that. It's a waste of time and it makes you look desperate! Simply MOVE ON! Avoid ALL the negativity. 


Even if you don't have 500,000 followers or on a hit TV show, you can still stand to benefit from following these basic tips... Remember, I've been there and done that... Shoot, you've seen it! 

Tahiry Jose